In the wake of so many friends and close folk leaving here.
In the wake of mofos speaking on things in a giggly "oh they had this and that going on" manner "why they, what were they" BS. Who knows, but they may have said something that others didn't pick up on. The world is HURTING, rich, pO, every color and religion of us.
It's heartbreaking and baffling to me that folks are consumed with the WHOs and WHYs whenever one of their friends or celebs they admire take their own lives. I feel if WE ALL slowed down just a little and listen, reach out, pay attention to SO CALLED friends, family, peers, associates etc we may be able to be of assistance to one going through things and emotions they feel are dire enough to take their own lives.
It's been rough on most of us over the past couple of years. Many, far too many of those you see as SUCCESSFUL, STRONG, LIVING A GREAT LIFE etc are struggling each and everyday.... with what? Who knows? It doesn't matter, does it? The thing is everyone drops their guards, leaving subtle hints, flags, changes in behavior or characteristics. We have to be better LISTENers and REACHers. Not saying that we can stop it all because we can't. Yet a simple heartfelt "hello how are you?" can change a person's mind, even from a stranger.
In our community it's TABOO or WEAK to open up and have dialogue. We look at it like "I'm ok" "Can't let these folk see me down"
MANNN FUCK THAT!!! LET IT OUT! Everyone goes through shit... even more so those of us that are ALWAYS giving and SO CALLED strong.
I thanked one of my dearest friends recently for 3 things. Her showing me to "Silence The Shame" and teaching me to stop being too busy for my loved ones "Laugh Now, Cry Later" and to take time to take care of me. Thank you Shanti Das and several others on that 3rd one .
That 3rd one is my hardest but I'm getting better at saying "NO!" to people. Me being an introvert and giver, it's hard to ask for anything. I've always suffered the hard road to get my own while giving to others most of my life. Now I'm more expressive and open about certain stressors. My relationship with my parents was always good but I've learned to take time to listen to them even if they said it before. I love each and every moment and get upset if they rush me now .
I'm just a vessel carrying a message. Let's all please make more of an effort to SHUT UP and LISTEN...BE PATIENT and LISTEN... OBSERVE. ACT! Trust me it WILL HELP. I've had complete strangers reach out to me and friends alike to confess an action or words that I shared put a halt to their mindset and detriment.
Love you all!
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